FUCK MORE: THE IMPOTENCE MEN

Surely, we can imagine a satisfying sexuality that isn’t dependent on the rise and fall of a dick?

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A few days ago I was asking a friend, a man the same age as me, about the efficacy of the dick pump - described in a previous dispatch - and given to me as a seventieth birthday present. He should know, I thought, having given the pump a whirl recently, regretting his wife’s lack of sex. Apparently it was painful. It didn’t work. There was disappointment.

My friend mentioned other so-called cures when it comes to impotence; little capsules you insert into the end of your penis and which will, apparently, create the same effect; or, as a last resort, there are injections into the old chap. None of these tricks sound like much fun.

These techniques to raise an erection ask many important questions about what sex is and what it means. For instance, it might be mistaken to think that orgasm is the point of sex. Surely, we can imagine a satisfying sexuality that isn’t dependent on the rise and fall of a dick? After all, many women do not, or cannot, experience orgasm during sexual intercourse, and yet may still enjoy the experience, and the same can be said for some men, particularly fetishists.